A new relationship or upcoming marriage can feel exciting, but it’s just as important to think about what comes after. In many cultures, a husband is seen as someone who will be caring and make you happy, while women are often expected to “adjust” overnight to a new way of life, a new family, and new responsibilities. In reality, adapting to these changes can be far more difficult than it seems. For many women, this may mean giving up education or career goals, taking on caregiving roles, and becoming isolated from friends or family. These factors can increase vulnerability to control and abuse.
Healthy relationships aren’t built on love or tradition alone, they require mutual respect, shared understanding, and clear agreements about the future. This can only happen through open conversations, navigating differences with care, and sometimes negotiating for what truly matters to you. Even if these discussions feel uncomfortable or go against family norms, they’re a powerful way to protect your well-being and prevent future conflict.
Whether it’s about continuing your studies or work, staying connected to loved ones, deciding when or whether to have children, or maintaining space for your own dreams — your needs are valid and important. Talking openly with your partner, and with their family if needed, helps lay the foundation for a more equal and supportive relationship. It’s also important to know your rights, in case you ever need to assert them.
If you feel unsure where to start, try speaking to someone you trust and take small steps to express what matters to you. The earlier you begin, the stronger your foundation for a healthy, respectful relationship.
